The Mental Load Project

The invisible work of mothers & caretakers deserves to be seen

The Mental Load Project helps overwhelmed moms & Caretakers reduce mental load and simplify daily life with systems that actually work.

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Good Moms Are Tired

A Newsletter From The Mental Load Project

Our Promise

  • To Validate mothers and caretakers emotionally
  • To Normalize fatigue, anger, grief, ambivalence, and burnout
  • To Help caretakers feel seen and heard.
  • To Create a low pressure space where honesty is not only safe,
    but highly valued.

This Newsletter Exsists
To Express Exaustion Without Shame

"Good Moms Are Tired " Conveys A Belief System

We want to say and express what many moms, caretakers, partners, household managers and primary planners are thinking and feeling, all those thoughts we are afraid to verbalize, the things we never feel we are allowed to say. This is not a newsletter that is going to tell you what you “should do next.” This is a weekly (or bi-weekly) pause and exhale, because you are not alone.

We believe that good moms are tired, not because they are doing something wrong, but because they are carrying excessive weight in the form of invisible labor. We believe exhaustion has context, that burnout is not a personal flaw. We believe that resentment can coexist with love, and that grief can live inside gratitude.We believe motherhood is not one experience, and no single voice should define it. We believe mothers deserve to define and establish language for what they carry before they are expected to apply solutions on how to change it.

What Honesty Means Here

  • Honesty does not mean cruelty, we are naming systems, not shaming or blaming individuals
  • Honesty is truth, not exaggerated for the sake of shock, be real
  • Honesty here is not universal truth, there is value in expressing differing opinions, makingroom for disagreement
  • Honesty means acceptance that many truths exist at once, and embracing complexity, not only consensus

What Community Means Here

  • Community does not require "sameness", diversity enriches a community
  • Community includes all family structures and identities
  • Community includes all political, cultural and personal backrounds
  • Community includes all forms of caretakers, partners, house managers & primary planners
  • Community includes all who feel they are experiencing various stages of certainty or those expereincing various stages of doubt
  • Belonging in this community is not about being agreeable or not, it's about sustained respect for each other

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